Swinky 402 Workshop: More Than Swinging

Building Loving, Lasting Relationships

If you follow us on social media, then you know that we are an ethically non-monogamous, open, polyamorous, kinky foursome, and we refer to ourselves as The Square. In the few years that we have been together, we often get asked how we did it, and we often hear comments from other swingers about how they wished they could find something like this in their journey as well.  While we do not have a cookbook recipe for how to create the kind of relationship dynamic we have, we can discuss our own experiences, and in this workshop, we use our experiences and opinions to guide a roundtable discussion with lots of audience participation, where we all share our stories, concerns, fears, victories, and deeply personal reasons for choosing a polyamorous lifestyle.

What Will I Learn?

While we clearly maintain that we have no magic, we can share many lessons learned, and help facilitate discussion around some challenging points. Among other things, we will discuss:

• Definitions of Key Terms
  • Non Monogamous
  • Swinging
  • Polyamorous
• How Many Swingers Wish They Could Find This?
• How Did We “Make” This Happen?
• How Do We Keep This Going
  • Love
  • Patience
  • Commitment
  • Tolerance
  • Forgiveness
• There Is No Magic Here
• What Are the Benefits?
• What Are the Costs?
• What Are the Challenges?

Some Practical Skills to Help Smooth Things Out

We will also discuss practical, real world things we do in our Square to help things run smoothly as we deal with the things in life that truly are pies, such as time, money, and energy. We will discuss the intricacies of dealing with family, co-workers, and friends. And we will discuss the importance of strong, fearless communication at every step.

I am not Poly, is this class for Me?

In the swinger community, there is an old adage, along the lines of “Physical promiscuity, but emotional monogamy”. We believe this is misleading — we believe if you have sex with someone, you will have feelings for them. They may be strong, or weak… they may be positive, or negative… they may lead you to want to play with that person at the next party you happen to see each other, they may lead you to avoid that person forever. And they may also lead you to be texting that person at midnight the next night, remembering how screaming hot it was. If any of that resonates with you… if, like us, you believe sex and emotions are wound intricately together in our DNA… then this class is for you. While we did not make this happen, we all agree it only happened because we were all open to it, and fearless enough to jump when we realized we were standing on the edge. This class, at the very least, will help you explore your own inner emotional landscape, and decide if you would like to also open yourself up for that potential.

~Phoenix