Why do you find kink exciting?

There are many aspects of kink that are interesting and exciting.  As we mentioned in our previous blog “Why do you spend all this time doing this stuff?”, trust, intimacy, and heightened emotional states are all things that can make kinky play interesting, exciting and worthwhile.  Yet it can go even deeper than that. 

Kink makes it hotter

Picture it … there you are, in bed with your playmate, feeling sexy, turned on and having fun.  Then you begin playing a little differently, a little more … kinky. Perhaps a slap on the ass with your hand, a tug of the hair, a hard tweak of the nipples … a whole new sensation washes over you.  The newness, the hotness, the sense of being even more naughty than normal, the amazing realization that this can go thousands of directions from here… suddenly the play goes from fun to amazingly hot.  Why? Well, let’s be real – the nastier, the more forbidden, the more taboo, physical and animalistic the sex is, the hotter it is!! 

Kink builds trust

What happens next? You and your playmate find a whole new universe to play in! And that play, in turn, feeds and grows the trust and intimacy you share. 

Think about telling your partner about some of your kinky fantasies … the newest thing you want to explore with him; or the thing you’ve always wanted to try.  You talk about what turns you on and excites you. He does the same. Maybe you find that you unexpectedly share the same or similar fantasies; maybe he’s always wanted to try something that you thought might be fun to try?  Maybe he mentions trying something he thinks is hot and exciting that you never thought of? You talk about it, you decide to try it, you do it. Then you find that next thing you never dreamed you would enjoy, and you discover that you fucking love it, and on and on it goes.  This constant upward spiral of sexual energy is what makes kink play so exciting for us!

Kink is worth the time

And so this is our dream, our passion at Swinky Life …  to teach and show how these things can be done safely, and in a fun and worry free environment.  To show our swinger friends that kink, and being kinky, is not strange or weird. It does not negate sex; it can enhance sex and make it even more fun!!!  Yes, sometimes good (and always safe) kink play does take additional time and energy, but the payback is so worth it!